Relationships are difficult experiences. During the ‘honeymoon phase’ when infatuation has taken over, it’s easy to focus entirely on the positives of the relationship: spending lots of time with the man or woman of your dreams, going on fancy dates, having exciting sex. It all sounds great!
However, as the relationship progresses, you get into the nitty gritty aspects of the relationship: seeing how you can live with another person, having them call you on your issues, and seeing the reflection of yourself in them – all the time. It becomes about how to survive the end of the honeymoon phase.
It can be stressful! But that doesn’t mean you should give up. Relationships are one of the best opportunities for personal growth that you’ll ever go through – however, it might not always be comfortable.
In this article we’re going to discuss some of the reasons that relationships can be frustrating – but we’ll also provide some tips that you can use to help deal with this frustration and ensure that your relationship is a success.
Why Relationships Can Be Frustrating
There are tons of reasons why relationships can be frustrating, many of which stem from the fact that you’re spending so much darn time with the same person. Doing this with anyone often leads to some form of frustration, because you’ll come to clash with certain facets of the other person’s personality.
Here are some of the most prominent issues that can lead to frustration in a relationship:
• Personal frustration. More and more people are becoming frustrated for themselves, for whatever reason. Maybe they feel that they’re not good enough, maybe they’re not living up to their expectations (which are often unrealistic), maybe they’ve bitten off more than they can chew.
Whatever the case, if you’re mad at yourself you’re going to end up projecting this onto your partner, and you’ll end up seeing the same traits displayed in them. If you don’t deal with your own frustrations, you’ll inevitably end up getting angry with them – for the same things.
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• Sharing personal space. Sharing your space with another person can be an increasing source of frustration, especially if the two of you have different living styles. Trying to live in a house with a partner who is messy can be a nightmare for someone who prefers things clean and organized.
• Conflicting viewpoints. When you first start seeing someone, it can be easy to believe that the two of you ‘agree on everything.’ Realistically though, this isn’t the case, and learning about the ways in which you and your partner see things differently can be a source of frustration.
Dealing With Frustration
If you’re of a mind to ensure that your relationship succeeds, you’ll want to learn how to deal with your frustration properly. Here are a couple tips:
• Figure out why your partner’s behavior makes you frustrated.]
• Don’t focus on ‘what they did,’ focus on ‘how it makes you feel,’ then figure out why
• Seek a therapist or counselor to provide tools and techniques for fighting frustration
As you can see, there’s no shortage of reasons that a relationship could lead to frustration. However, with the proper determination and the right knowledge, you can avoid frustration relatively easily.