How to talk to women in bars and clubs

How to talk to women in bars and clubs

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It's the worst. You go out to a bar or club with your buddies to meet women… but when you see a woman you're dying to meet, you can't get up your nerve. Or when you approach her, you don't know how to keep the conversaion going – so you crash and burn. It's time to put those days behind you! Read David D.'s solution to this embarrassing situation in the article below – so you'll ALWAYS know what to say to a woman. (And when you're done, do yourself a favor and pick up a FREE trial of his eBook, Double Your Dating, here, before he changes his mind and stops his free trial offer…)


When you start talking to a woman in a bar or club, it's CRUCIAL that your conversation be exciting and entertaining - right out of the gate. 

Unlike a date where you can afford a boring moment, in a club you have to be constantly increasing her attraction for you or she'll move on to the next guy. 

One of the most important things for you to remember is to AVOID ROUTINE CONVERSATION AT ALL COSTS. 

Don't talk about work, business, politics, religion, or family - EVEN IF you share these things in common. 

If you find yourself entering the "boring zone," change the subject fast - and turn it around in funny, cocky way. 

For example, if she asks an "interview" question, give her a silly answer and accuse her of trying to pick you up.

A FEW "FALLBACKS" FOR BORING CONVERSATIONS

Find something funny going on around you in the club and point it out, like a guy trying to hit on a girl who's obviously not into him, a guy who is checking her out (or point out a GIRL who is checking her out), or the guy with the dorkiest outfit. 

Tell her you're going to set her up on a date, and pick out some funny looking guys for her in the club. Have her pick out some girls for you. 

Tell her to entertain you with a funny story or joke. This puts the pressure back on her, and makes her work to keep you around and entertained. 

You can also play little games that women find totally engaging - like one called "Favorites" where you go back and forth and ask each other your favorite things, like your favorite ice cream, restaurants, etc. Spice this up by taking it to the extreme - ask her what's the craziest experience she's ever had in a restaurant, or the most bizarre food she's ever tried, etc. 

Another great game is called the N.A.M.E. game. Take turns taking the letter of the other person's name and making something funny out of each of them. So if you're talking to a girl named JEN, you might say, "OK... J - jumps around a lot. E - extremely nerdy. N - needs to stop following me around the club. "Then have her do your name - it's a great opportunity to see how fun and witty SHE can be as well, which is always a good sign...

MORE TIPS ON MAKING REGULAR CONVERSATION INTERESTING...

Sometimes you'll legitimately want to know where she lives or what she does. It's OK to ask, as long as you do it in a cocky and funny way, and have a cocky and funny answer yourself. 

Here are some examples: 

- To find out where she lives: "I bet you live close to a mall, don't you?" 

- To find out where she's from: "You must not get out much... are you from Delaware or something?" 

- To find out what she does: "So what do you do? Are you like a tuba player or something? You've got "tuba" written all over you..." 

- After she laughs, say, "Seriously, tell me..." Then, of course, make fun of her answer.

"OWNING" THE CONVERSATION

A lot of times when you meet a woman in a bar or club, she's going to have her shield up from meeting so many dorky guys in a row. So she'll give you attitude. But if you can show her you're not affected by it - or better yet, turn it around in your favor - you will INSTANTLY trigger a deep attraction within her. 

Here are a few examples: 

- If she starts bragging about her new purse, say "You are such a dork." 

- If she tries to impress you or anyone else by name dropping, bragging about who she knows or how much money guys spend on her, call her out. Let's say she's bragging about being able to get into any nightclub she wants. Say sarcastically "Wow, you're like Miss Hollywood... so if I say your name, I can get into pretty much any club I want to, right? Can I have your autograph?" 

- If she asks you to do something for her, say "What will you give me?" If you don't like her answer, then don't do it. 

- If you mention you are going somewhere and she says, "Oh I hate that place" say "Well it doesn't like you either." 

- If she asks you what the craziest place you've ever had sex is, answer, then ask her what's the craziest POSITION she's ever had sex in. This will get a laugh, and she will probably be too shy to answer, so you'll come out as the "coolest."

When you're trying these techniques out, it's important that you come across as cool and funny, not cynical and arrogant. 

These tips should get you started... 

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