Attracting women and keeping them attracted

Attracting women and keeping them attracted

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If you want to learn how to attract women FAST, you need to read this article right now. You'll learn two of David D.'s most powerful tactics – "Two Steps Forward, One Step Back," and "Never Let The Line Go Slack." If you don't know what thesee are – or if you're not using them EVERY time you interact with a woman - you won't believe how your luck with women can change once you do. (And if you like what you read in this article, go pick up a FREE trial of his eBook, Double Your Dating, here.)

I often talk about the concept of ATTRACTION, and why it's more important than anything else when it comes to being successful with women and dating.

Well, one of the amazing aspects of ATTRACTION is that it can be turned up and down. You can actually AMPLIFY an initial attraction... if you know how.

Of course, if you DON'T know what you're doing, you can also DESTROY a woman's attraction to you as well. And, in fact, if you don't know how to AMPLIFY ATTRACTION, then you're most likely GOING to destroy it whenever you do create it.

In this newsletter, I'm going to talk about two of my concepts... one that I've talked about a lot, and one that is relatively new.

Here they are:



So let's talk about these concepts and how they relate to creating a powerful emotional state of ATTRACTION inside of women.


I realized a few years ago that women don't get "turned on" the same way men do (duh). More importantly, I learned that men get turned on like light switches, and women get turned on more like volume knobs.

A man can go from being not interested in sex (like that ever happens) to completely ready and totally turned on in about 30 seconds. Hell, it's probably more like 3 seconds.

Women, on the other hand, usually start out with a spark of attraction, and if the situation goes the right way, she gets more and more turned on... to the point where she's ready to have sex.

One technique you can use to actually AMPLIFY any initial attraction that a woman feels is to use the technique that I call "Two steps forward, one step back".

This simply means progressing a little bit (like maybe kissing her) and then stepping back for a little while (maybe leaning back and holding her hand or not touching at all)... and then moving two steps forward again (maybe kissing her, then kissing her neck)...and so on.

A powerful ingredient of ATTRACTION for women is ANTICIPATION.

Women love to be given a little bit, then they are waiting in anticipation of what's going to come next. Of course, since you keep taking a step back each time, it even amplifies the anticipation and sexual tension further.


Once you start to "get" how this process of women getting turned on works, you're going to need a way to gauge how fast or slow to go... and to keep a woman interested without turning into a wussy-boy who calls her 10 times a day.

I call this concept "Never let the line go slack".

Imagine that you are holding one end of a rope, and the woman is holding the other end. Both of you are pulling gently... enough to keep TENSION in the line.

It's a little game.

If she starts pulling, you need to give her a little bit of slack... but not so much that she gets it all. And if she starts letting go, you need to pull a little more to take up the slack and keep the TENSION up.

This is a great metaphor for the concept of SEXUAL TENSION.

Most men haven't the SLIGHTEST IDEA IN THE WORLD what sexual tension is. But all women do.

And that's what we're talking about here.

So imagine that you're out with a woman for the second time...

On the first date you kissed and held hands, and on this date you're walking around in the mall together.

Let's say you've been teasing her a little bit, and she's been hitting you and saying "stop it!", but she's laughing so you know that she's having fun.

Further, let's say that you've teased her so much that you can tell that it's actually starting to get to her. Maybe you were teasing her about her shoes being ugly, and she stops after the tenth joke and asks "Wow, do you really think my shoes are that ugly?"

At this point, she's letting go of the line a bit... and you need to do something about it to keep the tension up.

So you might say "Oh, no... they're not that bad... I'm just giving you a hard time".

At which point she might say "Wow, good. I was starting to worry that you really hated them and that it was bothering you".

And now you have the opposite situation... both of you are letting the line go slack at the same time with this whole "No, I think your shoes are fine" and her saying "Oh, I'm glad you were just teasing me" thing.

So you have to do something!

You might say "Well, if worse comes to worse you can always donate them to the Salvation Army so a needy girl who doesn't care if her shoes are ugly can have them".

You'll probably get hit, but it puts the tension back in the line again!

Of course, there's an art to doing this correctly, and you will improve with practice...

You can use this in just about every area imaginable, from how often you call a woman to being able to tell when it's appropriate to give a compliment (and then say something to take it back in a funny way!).

The problem is that most guys let things to too far in one direction... they call every day for a week instead of letting the woman call them back a couple of times, and waiting a couple or a few days to call.

Or they hang on a woman's arm every minute when they go out together, rather than giving the woman some space and letting her come find him.

Or they give a woman a compliment, which the woman appreciates, then they start giving her one after the other after the other... which comes across as ULTRA WUSSY KISS ASS BOY... and drives the woman away.

Don't do to much of anything... and never let the line go slack for too long!

When you use these two concepts together, you will find that not only will women become FAR more attracted to you, but they'll STAY THAT WAY for as long as you want them to.

If you DON'T do these two things, then you're probably going to find that women will do things that make no sense to you, and they'll RARELY want to be anything more than "just friends", because they just don't "feel it" for you.

Of course, these are two of literally dozens and dozens of the techniques, theories, and ideas that I have developed for attracting women. All of my materials fit together like a big puzzle, and they support each other... they create a total framework for making yourself successful with women and dating...

I have techniques for everything from changing your self esteem and self image to techniques for approaching women in every kind of situation you can imagine.

If you want to get the BEST OF THE BEST concepts, ideas, and step-by-step techniques for approaching, meeting, and dating women...

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David DeAngelo is the author of "Double Your Dating - What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women", and has taught thousands of men how to be more successful with women and dating.

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